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Attachment & Relationship Work

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UNDERSTANDING ATTACHMENT & RELATIONSHIP WORK

Moving from reactivity to secure connection

Attachment & Relationship Work is a therapeutic approach that examines the patterns driving your relationship dynamics—why you choose certain partners, how you respond to conflict, and what keeps you stuck in cycles of disconnection or intensity.

Your attachment style was formed in early relationships and continues to influence how you connect (or disconnect) from others today. When couples get stuck in high-conflict cycles—intense fights followed by emotional withdrawal—it's often because both partners are operating from insecure attachment patterns, each trying to protect themselves in ways that push the other away.

This work isn't about learning communication scripts or surface-level strategies. It's about understanding the deeper emotional patterns at play—why you pursue when your partner withdraws, why you shut down when things get heated, why trust feels impossible even when you want it.

Whether you're working on your own relationship patterns or coming in as a couple, this approach helps you move from reactivity to presence, building relationships where both people feel safe, seen, and valued.

Attachment work is grounded in decades of research on how early relationships shape our capacity for connection, intimacy, and trust.

This work is effective for:

High-Conflict Cycles

Couples stuck in intense arguments followed by emotional withdrawal and disconnection

Relational Trauma

Partners carrying attachment wounds from past relationships or childhood experiences

Communication Breakdown

Couples who struggle to be heard, understood, or to express needs without triggering conflict

Trust Rebuilding

Recovering from betrayal, infidelity, or breaches of trust and moving toward secure connection

The Attachment Work Process

1

Identify Patterns

We map out your relationship dynamics, attachment style, and the cycles that keep you stuck in reactivity or disconnection.

2

Understand Triggers

Explore the root causes behind emotional reactions, defensiveness, and the ways past wounds show up in present relationships.

3

Build New Skills

Learn tools for secure communication, emotional regulation, and how to repair ruptures when conflicts arise.

4

Create Secure Connection

Move from reactivity to presence, building a relationship where both partners feel safe, seen, and valued.

Common Questions About Relationship Therapy/Attachment Work

  • Both approaches work. Individual therapy helps you understand your own attachment patterns and how they show up in relationships—this often creates positive shifts even if your partner isn't involved. Couples therapy is more effective when both people are committed to the work, but one person can still make meaningful changes on their own.

  • Most clients start noticing shifts within the first 2-3 months—they catch themselves reacting differently, feel less triggered, or have one successful repair conversation. Deep, lasting change typically takes 6-12 months of consistent work. Patterns built over years don't disappear overnight, but progress is often felt sooner than expected.

  • You can still do this work individually. Understanding your own attachment style, triggers, and patterns gives you more control over how you show up in the relationship. Sometimes one person changing creates space for the other to change too. We can also discuss whether the relationship is sustainable if your partner refuses to engage.

  • No. Attachment patterns affect all relationships—friendships, family dynamics, work relationships, even how you relate to yourself. While many clients come in for romantic relationship issues, this work applies broadly to how you connect with others.

  • Yes, but it requires both people committing to the process. Rebuilding trust takes time, transparency, and a willingness to address the underlying issues that created vulnerability in the relationship. Not all relationships survive betrayal, but many couples who do the work report feeling closer and more secure than before.

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